But Raguel got up and summoned his servants. With him they went out to dig a grave, for he said, "I must do this, because if Tobiah should die, we would be subjected to ridicule and insult." When they had finished digging the grave, Raguel went back into the house and called his wife, saying, "Send one of the maids in to see whether Tobiah is alive or dead, so that if necessary we may bury him without anyone's knowing about it." She sent the maid, who lit a lamp, opened the bedroom door, went in, and found them sound asleep together. The maid went out and told the girl's parents that Tobiah was alive, and that there was nothing wrong. (Tobit 8:9-14)

Our ancient author expects empathy from his readers.

Seven times a husband has died. Seven weddings followed quickly by seven funerals.

Ridicule and insult are the least of it. Suspicion, accusation, and fear would run rampant.

The household's anxiety - Sarah's shame and guilt - are nearly overwhelming.

For Raguel, Edna, and Sarah the wedding night is mostly a threat of renewed pain.

To even go through the motions is an act of courage and considerable faith.

Each failure multiplies the pain of the next. Can we withstand yet another?